7-Day Connection Challenge: Day 2

Day 2: Name What You Need

Slow breath in. Extend the exhale. Do it again. Then Alex asks us to notice our energy. Not our mood. Our energy. Mine? Pretty depleted, emotionally. Physically? I feel pretty good, actually, especially after yesterday when I spent the entire afternoon planting flowers and giving our little garden a much-needed overhaul. (Wow. I just realized that doing something that I wanted to do makes me feel satisfied and happy. Oh boy . . .)

In Day 2, Alex explains that there’s a type of fatigue that comes with what she calls “overgiving” but there’s also an exhaustion that comes from spreading ourselves too thinly and not getting anything in return. She says, “Reciprocity is important in our lives.” As much as we may not want to admit it, it’s true. When we give of ourselves, whatever that might be i.e. emotional support, time and effort, etc. we hope that it will be returned in kind. Unfortunately, that’s not always the case. She asks us to think of one relationship and “feel it”. No judgment. Just notice it. Then she wants us to ask ourselves, “What do I need here?” We don’t need to force the answer or edit it or make it sound like we’re being “the good one”. She just wants us to focus on our own truth. Right now.

Alex then invites us to place a hand on our hearts and reminds us that it’s ok to have needs. We don’t have to share them with others but we need to admit it to ourselves. It’s not selfish to have needs or to want them to be met. Alex then says something that nearly brought me to tears. She said, “Being needed can feel important, yes, but being valued feels different and you deserve to be valued.” She then goes on to invite us to notice where we give and where we receive. This is where reciprocity comes in. Do we feel valued? Do others put as much into us as we do for them? She tells us to note what feels aligned or misaligned. She asks, “Where am I pouring without being poured into?” “What do I need that I have been afraid to name?” Do I feel needed? Absolutely. Do I feel valued? Not so much. Do I express my needs? No way. That’s when I feel the tightness in my chest.

It’s interesting to think about how much we pour ourselves into others yet receive nothing, or not nearly enough, in return. We’ve settled for a different definition of ‘normal’ even though it may be breaking us. This is when Alex reminds us that we are not “needy” and that we are allowed to have needs or to feel valued and experience reciprocity. There’s a part of me that felt anxious, wanting to know how to achieve that end, yet the session was over. She says we’re going to start to dive into it tomorrow. That would be nice . . .

What did you think of today’s session? Are you taking notice of how you’re spreading yourself too thin? Or recognizing your needs and naming them? I’d like to know. I hope you have a wonderful rest of your day. You deserve it.

#7dayconnectionchallenge

#namewhatyouneed

The information provided on this website is intended for educational purposes only and is, in no way, a substitute for professional medical advice. The events, practices, and opinions discussed here are those of the author and should be treated as such. ALWAYS talk with your doctor about conditions, medications, and concerns you have about your health and work together to determine the best course of action for you.

7-Day Connection Challenge: Day 1

Day 1: Coming back to you

It’s here! Alex Elle’s special series about investigating our relationships. She’ll be leading us through various activities that will challenge us to look at things a little differently. She talks about how we sometimes shrink in order to make others more comfortable or that we might stay silent in order to keep the peace or, as she puts it, “calling self-abandonment love”. This series is about connecting with, and being true to, ourselves and making connections with others without sacrificing our own needs.

We start the day with a bit of breath work and a reminder to be present in this moment. She tells us that we’ve learned how to deny our needs, beliefs, or broken our boundaries; it doesn’t just ‘happen’. She describes the process like a flower dropping its petals. Whenever we say yes when we mean no or overgive even though it means denying ourselves we’re leaving a part of us behind.

She asks us to visualize one of these times and pay attention to where we feel the discomfort. Is it in our chest? Or throat? Our belly? She asks us to stay in the moment, even though it doesn’t feel good. Then she reminds us that we need to be compassionate not only to others but especially to ourselves. We don’t need to “smooth things over” or stay silent any longer. She also reminds us that it’s not selfish to tend to our own needs or set boundaries.

Finally she poses a few questions for us like how we will avoid self-abandonment, what does it look like to stay in the moment, with these feelings, and if there is anyone that will “hold” us during this time. She closes with an invitation to explore our truth, examine our relationships, and decide what works – and what doesn’t.

I’ve listened to this session several times today and I’m not quite sure what to make of it all. Some of her words have hit pretty close to home for me. I’ll admit that I was fairly uncomfortable thinking about instances where I’ve chosen to go along with things so as not to rock the boat or given up what I really wanted in order to make others happy. I’m going to have to learn to sit with these emotions and I’m not sure how to do that yet. I hope that this challenge will help me discover my own truth and hang on to it.

I hope that you’ll join me in this challenge. I’d love to hear what you think of it and what you’re learning about yourself. Until tomorrow . . .

#7dayconnectionchallenge

#comebacktoyou

The information provided on this website is intended for educational purposes only and is, in no way, a substitute for professional medical advice. The events, practices, and opinions discussed here are those of the author and should be treated as such. ALWAYS talk with your doctor about conditions, medications, and concerns you have about your health and work together to determine the best course of action for you.

7-Day Connection Challenge

Good morning and happy Sunday!

Just a quick note to let everyone know that Insight Timer is hosting another FREE mediation challenge!

This time Alex Elle will be our teacher for the entirety of the challenge. The description says that we all need connection but many of us haven’t really explored our relationships, including our relationship with ourselves. We’ve been taught to give of ourselves without thought of reciprocation, “shrink” ourselves in order to make others feel better, or give up what we would really like in order to “keep the peace”. During this challenge, Alex will lead us through guided meditations, somatic activity, and journaling so that we can figure out what it is that we truly want and need from our relationships. You can read the full description in the app . . .

Here’s the skinny on the challenge:

Title: 7-Day Connection Challenge

Host: Alex Elle

Begins: Monday May 11

I hope you’ll join me as we venture into exploring connection with others – and ourselves. In the meantime, I hope you have a wonderful day!

Happy meditating!

#7dayconnectionchallenge

#insighttimer

The information provided on this website is intended for educational purposes only and is, in no way, a substitute for professional medical advice. The events, practices, and opinions discussed here are those of the author and should be treated as such. ALWAYS talk with your doctor about conditions, medications, and concerns you have about your health and work together to determine the best course of action for you.

Chickpea Egg Salad

Ommm nom nom nom nom nom . . .

Delicious. Nutritious. Colorful. Flavorful. All in one bowl. This recipe is super easy to make and really packs a punch. It’s got cucumbers, tomatoes, bell pepper, chickpeas, onion lightly bathing in a subtle, but tasty dressing. With a hard-boiled egg on top, it really is a full meal – and filling! This particular recipe comes from a pamphlet of sorts called ‘Mediterranean Diet Recipes’ and is one of a 3-part set by Hamiew that includes guidelines on what to eat, how much, and nutrition facts for lots of foods.

The main ingredient, chickpeas, are loaded with fiber and protein that will keep you full but also may help with brain health, digestion, blood sugar regulation, and weight management. And for those of you who are vegans or vegetarians, chickpeas are a great way to get your protein! Bell peppers and onions offer their own benefits as well like reducing inflammation and could aid in the prevention of some cancers and heart disease. All told, this dish is packed with vitamins, minerals, fiber, protein, and flavor. It saves well too so you can enjoy it for a couple of meals. 😉 So here’s the original recipe:

Prep time: 15 minutes

Cook time: 5 minutes

Serves: 8

For the salad:

2 cans of chickpeas, rinsed & drained

2 celery ribs, chopped

2 persian OR 1/2 seedless English cucumber, diced

2-3 green onions, trimmed & chopped (both white & green parts)

1/2 cup red cabbage, shredded

2 jalapeño peppers, chopped (opt)

1/2 cup packed fresh parsley, chopped

1/2 cup pack fresh mint leaves, chopped

5 large hard-boiled eggs, sliced/diced

For the dressing:

2 1/2 tsp Dijon mustard

1 large lemon, zested & juiced

1/3 cup extra virgin olive oil

1 clove of garlic, minced

1 tsp sumac

1/2 tsp coriander

1/2 tsp cayenne pepper

Salt & pepper to taste

Directions:

In a large mixing bowl, combine all of the salad ingredients except the eggs. In a smaller bowl or jar, mix the ingredients for the dressing and blend well. Drizzle the dressing over the salad and mix well. Let sit for a few minutes so that the flavors can mingle. Top with the eggs and serve.

Here’s my take on this recipe . . .

First of all, it’s just me and the hubby so I usually cut the recipe in half and we still have plenty of leftovers. I’m not a huge fan of ‘zest’ so I don’t do it. I just use the lemon juice. The first time I made this recipe I didn’t have sumac so I omitted it. I don’t know the difference so we’ll just leave it at that. (Maybe someday I’ll remember to grab it at the store and see how it changes the flavor.) I also don’t enjoy my food tasting like spearmint gum so I usually omit the mint and pull back a bit on the parsley. It’s all a matter of taste and you should do what you like. 😉 The last time I made this salad was completely on the spur of the moment and I didn’t quite have everything I needed so I omitted the red cabbage, jalapeños, and green onions and added diced red onion, chopped radishes, yellow bell peppers, and grape tomatoes. And if you’re vegan, you’ll still get lots of nutrition even without the eggs.

Hope you enjoy this powerful little dish as much as we do.

Happy eating!

#mediterraneandiet

https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/chickpeas-nutrition-benefits#TOC_TITLE_HDR_7

https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/foods/bell-peppers

https://www.arthritis.org/health-wellness/healthy-living/nutrition/anti-inflammatory/onions-prevent-inflammation

The information provided on this website is intended for educational purposes only and is, in no way, a substitute for professional medical advice. The events, practices, and opinions discussed here are those of the author and should be treated as such. ALWAYS talk with your doctor about conditions, medications, and concerns you have about your health and work together to determine the best course of action for you.

Numbers Don’t Lie

Good morning and Happy Wednesday!

As you may know, I’m a nerd. I love learning! I love sharing what I learn with others who are interested in similar topics. I like diving into research and investigating things that I hear or read about. And while theory is great, I love it when I can see actual proof of that theory. In other words, numbers, which is usually how the scientific community speaks.

For example, I meet people who have had scans that reveal osteopenia or osteoporosis and they come to us for strength training at the advice of their doctors. Simply stated, building muscle leads to building bone. Click here to read a previous post about this very topic. In our brains we think, “Great! That’s wonderful,” but let’s be honest . . . we’re also a bit skeptical about it, yet hope that it’s completely true. What’s really awesome is to have clients come in for their workout and share that a subsequent scan shows maintenance and/or improvement!! They’re so excited that what they’re doing for themselves is paying off. Their commitment and consistency is actually working. The proof is in the numbers. And numbers don’t lie.

So now it’s my turn to rejoice! I just had my annual checkup and routine bloodwork. I wasn’t terribly worried about anything in particular except maybe my Vitamin D and cholesterol levels. A year ago I was treated for Vitamin D deficiency which has stabilized, so that’s good. But here’s the really cool part: my overall cholesterol score DROPPED 30 POINTS! I was stunned! For the past year my husband and I have remained very consistent with a Mediterranean “diet” {{shivers at the word}} and the results are phenomenal. My cholesterol was a tad high at this time last year, though the ratios were totally in line, so the doctor didn’t feel it was necessary to do anything about it. But looking at my scores now, I was flabbergasted yesterday. Wow! The numbers don’t lie. I’m active, for sure, but the biggest change I made was my nutrition structure and it’s paying off!

So, a big thanks to Julene Stassou and her amazing book! I hope that you’ll consider purchasing it so that you can see and enjoy the results for yourself!

Have a fabulous day!

#numbersdontlie

The information provided on this website is intended for educational purposes only and is, in no way, a substitute for professional medical advice. The events, practices, and opinions discussed here are those of the author and should be treated as such. ALWAYS talk with your doctor about conditions, medications, and concerns you have about your health and work together to determine the best course of action for you.

The Dopamine Rebalance Challenge

Hey there! Happy Thursday! (Or Friday Eve, if you prefer.)

I hope you’ve had a chance to download the Insight Timer app and try the Dopamine Rebalance Challenge. It began yesterday and so far I think it’s pretty good. The short, targeted sessions are designed to teach us one skill per day that will help us to recognize the trigger or urge, pause to create a gap, and then we can make the choice to act . . . or not. If you missed yesterday’s session please don’t worry. You can always do Days 1 and 2 today. 😉

I encourage you to give it a shot. I’ll be continuing with the challenge in addition to my regular meditations. Let me know what you think of the challenge and how it’s helping you find satisfaction and joy in the “ordinary”. Namaste.

#dopaminerebalancechallenge

#insighttimer

#createthegap

The information provided on this website is intended for educational purposes only and is, in no way, a substitute for professional medical advice. The events, practices, and opinions discussed here are those of the author and should be treated as such. ALWAYS talk with your doctor about conditions, medications, and concerns you have about your health and work together to determine the best course of action for you.

Coming Soon: The Dopamine Rebalance Challenge

Hey oh! Did you know . . . ?

Your brain releases chemicals all the time in response different stimuli. It’s what keeps us alive, calms us down, gives us the exercise high, and pushes us to pursue pleasure. This last one is driven by dopamine, to be exact. It goes up when we’re excited about something, moving us forward in the pursuit of pleasure, building the anticipation of the possibility of success. It skyrockets when we can’t find what we’re looking for. In the digital age, we’re overstimulating ourselves with social media scrolling, instant results and rewards, or constant notifications. Over time, we become desensitized to it, causing us to search for the next big thing. The unfortunate consequence is that it takes more and more to achieve that same “high”. What’s interesting is that the simple things that used to make us happy like going for a stroll, doing a puzzle, or having a leisurely cup of coffee or tea while chatting with a friend no longer produce the dopamine effect we’re looking for.

So . . . our friends at Insight Timer are hosting the Dopamine Rebalance Challenge beginning this Wednesday, March 25th. Over the course of 10 days, we’ll learn ways in which we can reset, retrain, and restore our brains to be happy once again with the simple pleasures in life. I’ll be following along, for sure, and I hope that you do too!

If you don’t yet have the Insight Timer app, visit the Stuff I Love! page to read my blurb about it, maybe go to their website and learn more about their mission, and download it so that you can start your journey on the path to rebalance your brain!

See you Wednesday!

#dopaminerebalancechallenge

#insighttimer

The information provided on this website is intended for educational purposes only and is, in no way, a substitute for professional medical advice. The events, practices, and opinions discussed here are those of the author and should be treated as such. ALWAYS talk with your doctor about conditions, medications, and concerns you have about your health and work together to determine the best course of action for you.

The Mediterranean Diet Weight Loss Solution

Last year my husband and I wanted to find a more healthy, sustainable lifestyle that included good food, exercise, and fun activity. It wasn’t that we ate poorly, but we felt like we were stuck in a bit of a ‘food rut’, so I bought a cookbook with the hope that it would offer us lots of variety as we embarked on our Mediterranean lifestyle. It’s a 28-day program for weight loss that includes not only a ton of recipes for breakfast, lunch, dinner and everything in between but also guidelines for exercise, what to do for the first 28 days AND how to keep your momentum for a lifetime of success. It’s called “The Mediterranean Diet Weight Loss Solution” by Julene Stassou, MS, RD. I have to say that I have never used a cookbook more, and I have several. I really like how the book is written – simply but intelligently – and I love the design and layout as well, with plenty of helpful tools to get you started and, more importantly, to keep you going.

First, let’s meet Julene Stassou. She is a registered dietician, having obtained her master’s degree in nutrition education from Columbia University. She also comes from a big Greek family so, you know, a foodie through and through both professionally and personally. 🙂 Her goal here is to educate us on not just what to eat but how to realistically incorporate different aspects of the Mediterranean lifestyle into our own lives and sustain them for a lifetime. She mentions that research throughout the years has shown that a Mediterranean lifestyle is not only practical, realistic, and affordable but sustainable too. There isn’t really any restriction, like in a typical ‘diet’, so we can eat the things we enjoy – she’s just going to teach us how to be smarter about it. So here’s the skinny . . .

The book is divided into 3 parts: Getting Started, Your 28-Day Commitment, and The Recipes. I’ll touch on each section and highlight a few things I think are pretty cool.

Part 1: Getting Started

The first part of this section compares and contrasts the Standard American Diet and The Mediterranean Diet. Yikes! To see them side-by-side is scary, as are the catastrophic effects of eating processed foods and not getting enough exercise and R&R. Julene lays out the Mediterranean food “pyramid” that looks very different than the one the U.S. government churns out. It’s full of whole foods, vegetables, fruits, whole grains, olive oil, fresh fish, lean poultry, eggs, and legumes. She also highlights the fact that the people of the Mediterranean are very active, and not because they go to the gym five days a week. They just, well, move more. Granted, the geographical layout of the cities as well as the climate lend themselves to being able to be outside more often and therefore they walk or ride bikes on a daily basis. Here, in the U.S., things are more spread out so we drive just about everywhere but that doesn’t mean we have to sit in front of our computers all day, every day either. We can make the effort to move more.

The next part tackles the topic of weight loss. She addresses caloric intake, the purpose and value of eating high quality protein, fats, carbs, and vegetables, giving examples of each. Then she dives into the Mediterranean approach to life which includes more than just food and movement; it must also include rest, relaxation, and mindfulness. In addition to eating fresh, good food and making time for exercise and activity, we need to set aside our to-do lists and focus on trying to get more sleep, chill out a bit, and make sure we do our best to adopt a more positive mindset.

When it comes to eating and figuring portion size, Julene offers some tips and tricks to kickstart the process – from reading food labels to choosing nutrient-dense foods to how to dine out. My favorite is “eat from plates, not packages.” (It’s a great way to make me stop and think about my food choice!) She also includes a visual graphic of portion sizes in relation to our own hands, i.e. fist vs. palm, etc., and even gives some common examples of foods that fit those ‘measurements’. Here, she also gives some pointers on how to recognize, and correct, bad habits. (There’s even a “Habit Tracker” we can use during the first 28 days to help us.)

Julene stresses goal-setting as an incredibly important part of the journey. She says that there are two kinds of goals: the outcome and the process. The Outcome Goal is what you want to achieve, however she says that these types of goals only give us a target; they don’t tell us how to get there. Enter: The Process Goal. These types of goals are the specific tasks or steps we take in order to get to the outcome; walking 30 minutes per day or adding 2-3 extra servings of fruits and vegetables every day are a couple of examples of process goals and are focused on creating new, healthier habits. She also identifies something called “SMART Goals” as essential to achieving the ultimate goal:

Specific . . . Measurable . . . Attainable . . . Realistic . . . Trackable

Julene addresses each one of these in more detail and even includes a weight loss plan worksheet to help us think about what we want and how to get there.

The final section focuses on exercise, rest, and relaxation. They are essential components of the Mediterranean lifestyle which is a much more holistic choice for not just weight loss but for life in general. Julene talks about the importance of exercise for our brains and our bodies and encourages a combination of activities for optimal results. Ideally we should do strength training as well as cardio but also says that every little bit helps, especially when we’re just starting out. She suggests doing a variety of things so that we avoid boredom and use different muscles, or throwing in a little interval training, or extend the time if possible. Here, there’s a graphic that outlines four weeks of a possible schedule to help us start a routine and even includes pages of simple exercises with explanations and drawings for us. Establishing a regular pattern will aid in creating a new habit that we can carry forward. Plus, you know, it’ll make us feel better. 🙂

Finally Julene talks about the benefits of staying hydrated by drinking lots of water and eating fruits and vegetables that have high water content. Not only does it make our skin look great but it helps us from overeating. She also encourages us to really make an effort to fit in rest and relaxation. Sleep is incredibly important, of course, but so is taking regular breaks throughout the day to breathe. If we don’t pause for a few moments our bodies will stay in a constant state of fight-or-flight and that leads to horrible consequences, both physically and mentally. Reducing stress helps us digest better, sleep better, improves our mood, and even helps us deal with everyday life.

Part 2: The 28-Day Plan

Ok! Now we can get into the nitty gritty details of the program! In this section, Julene reiterates that any kind of change of habit requires commitment. She wants us to make sure that we’ve really looked at our current habits, our goals, the time needed for the program, and our commitment to ourselves. She goes over a few last-minute details and reminds us to be patient with ourselves – this is not a quick fix. It’s a process. One that needs to be practiced. But it’s the first step to a lifetime of health and wellbeing, which is what we ultimately want, right?

For those who want or need everything to be laid out for them with step-by-step instructions, this is for you. Even if you don’t necessarily need meal plans, but want tips, tricks, ideas, and helpful tools to aid in your journey, don’t skip this part! Everyone needs a little help!

The next part of the book is divided into four weeks. Each week includes the following: a complete shopping list, what to make ahead of time, a full 7-day menu with breakfast, lunch, dinner, and suggested snacks, plus a page dedicated to recording your exercise routine and tracking your habits throughout the week.

The shopping lists contain the amounts or weights for everything and the menus include pages numbers for all of the recipes. By the way, the meals outlined here are very filling – and I love that leftovers are built into the week. For me, that’s a huge bonus because my work schedule doesn’t allow me to be at home to cook every night. (Plus, I’m just not that into cooking . . .) At the beginning of each week, Julene talks about the benefits of our new habits, what to expect in the week to come, and adds a couple of tips and tricks to keep us going. And, as always, she encourages us to pat ourselves on the back for making the commitment and sticking to it. By the end of four weeks we’ve made significant strides toward establishing healthier eating and exercise habits that we can take with us as we move forward.

The final section of Part 2 is what sets this book apart from others I’ve read. It goes beyond the first 28 days. Here, Julene explains that we have the tools to continue our journey of losing weight and/or living a healthier lifestyle but that sometimes we have to make adjustments. That’s ok. We just need to remember that we are in charge, we need to prioritize ourselves, we must continue to include ourselves in the process, and we should remember our long-term goals. She also reminds us that the more we practice this new way of living, the better we’ll get at it, and the easier it will become to fend off old habits and keep our eyes on the prize. Julene encourages maintaining an actual written exercise plan that fits with our schedules and, when it comes to fighting off cravings, she says to remember the “3 Ds”: DRINK more water, DETOUR the craving with a better food choice, and DISTRACT ourselves by doing something else. She offers more tips and tricks for success, two more weeks of menus, and a blank menu so that we can fill it in with our favorites or experiment with other recipes.

Part 3: The Recipes

Woo hoo! On to the good stuff!!! The final part of the book is all recipes – nine sections of them! Here, Julene breaks everything down into groups rather than meals of the day. For instance, she begins with Breakfast and Snacks, but the rest of the categories are divided into Soups and Salads, Fish and Seafood, Beans, Legumes, and Vegetable Mains, etc.

Each page is dedicated to one recipe and they’re incredibly detailed. Julene not only lists the ingredients (and amounts of each) but how many servings it makes, how long it takes to prep as well as cook, a brief description of the dish, and easy-to-follow instructions. She even breaks down calories, fats, carbs, protein, sugars, fiber, cholesterol, sodium, etc. per serving for us so that there’s no guesswork. Another really awesome feature included with nearly every recipe is some kind of tip. It could be a cooking or preparation tip, how to make it a meal, a blurb about one of the ingredients, or a variation of the dish. I especially appreciate the substitution tips. If you have an allergy or are vegetarian or vegan, many times she offers alternatives to the ingredients so that you can enjoy the dish without having to sacrifice physical health or principles. A few of our favorite dishes are Moussaka, One-Pan Tuscan Chicken, and Shrimp Scampi. Oh! And Chop Chop Salad. The smoothies are good too! Anyway . . .

Julene rounds out the book with a recipe index, resources, credits, and the Dirty Dozen and Clean Fifteen lists. (They’re from 2017 but it’s easy to find the most recent lists on ewg.org) And, for those of us who are challenged by conversions, Julene includes a conversion chart for volume, weights, and temperatures.

My husband and I really do love this book. It offers a realistic and holistic approach to health and wellness that we can sustain for the rest of our lives. It’s not a restrictive ‘diet’ (I shudder at the word!), nor is it a fad that only works for a short period of time. It truly is a way of life that delivers delicious food, a positive outlook, and fun activities for achievable and sustainable health for years to come.

If you’d like to purchase this book, click here. For less that $20, it’s a steal!

***Please note that, while I absolutely love the book, use it all the time, and would never steer you wrong, I earn a tiny commission for sales that result from clicking on the link to the book’s Amazon page.***

The information provided on this website is intended for educational purposes only and is, in no way, a substitute for professional medical advice. The events, practices, and opinions discussed here are those of the author and should be treated as such. ALWAYS talk with your doctor about conditions, medications, and concerns you have about your health and work together to determine the best course of action for you.

Nervous System Reset Toolbox

We did it! 12 days of the Nervous System Reset Challenge! Congratulations!!!

At the end of Day 12 Anaïs gives a quick recap of the tools offered during the challenge and reminds us that they’re not “meant to fix you; they’re here to support you.” She also says that regulation isn’t something we aspire to, it’s something that we practice time and time again, in a continual and growing relationship with our bodies and nervous systems. (It’s all about the journey, isn’t it?)

I don’t know about you, but I learned a few things about myself over the past several days as well as some quick, easy techniques for cooling my jets when things get to be too much. I especially liked the breathing exercises on Days 1 and 3 as well as the grounding activities on Days 2 and 6. Those are simple practices that I can do anywhere, at any time – and no one will even notice. I love to sing and dance, so Days 8 and 11 might be things to do when I’m by myself in the car or at home. I employed Day 10’s five-finger breathing technique just yesterday while my husband and I were struggling through our taxes. (Eye roll . . . breathe . . . breathe . . . breathe!!!)

Now, in case you don’t have access to the archives through the Plus membership on Insight Timer, I’ve made a table for you with each day, lesson, and a brief description of the exercise. You’re always welcome to go back to any of my posts and refresh your memory, but I thought this may be a nice, quick reference guide you can come back to and use whenever you’d like.

1: Enhancing vagal toneSlow, rhythmic breathing:
5-count inhale, 5-count exhale
2: Body-based groundingContact, pressure, and sensation:
Notice contact, apply pressure, release
3: Extended exhale breathingReduce urgency:
3-count inhale, 6-count exhale
4: Self-soothing touchUsing touch to soothe:
Gentle tapping
5: Sensory orientationSense and organize for safety:
Use eyes and ears to notice; no judgment
6: Releasing physical tensionNotice, breathe, release:
Notice tension, breathe, let it go
7: Physiological sighAcute stress release:
Double inhale, long loud sigh
8: Humming for calmCalm through vibration:
Humming (static note or undulating)
9: Gentle ear massageSoothing touch:
Gently trace and massage the ears
10: Dual regulation 5-finger breathingTop-down and bottom-up regulation:
Trace the fingers, inhale up, exhale down
11: Rhythmic movementSoothe through movement:
Sway side to side or back and forth
12: Regulating through the eyesSoften the gaze:
Look left, breathe, look right, breathe

Which practices resonated most with you? Did you use any of the techniques repeatedly? When? Was there any particular exercise that you loved? Or not? Why? How did they make you feel? Did you notice any kind of shift? I’d truly love to know what you think and how you might use these techniques in the future.

In the meantime, I hope you enjoyed the challenge and will continue to use at least a few of the tools we learned to help you through the rough times. I wish you all the best!

Love and light . . .

#nervoussystemresetchallenge

#regulationtoolbox

The information provided on this website is intended for educational purposes only and is, in no way, a substitute for professional medical advice. The events, practices, and opinions discussed here are those of the author and should be treated as such. ALWAYS talk with your doctor about conditions, medications, and concerns you have about your health and work together to determine the best course of action for you.

Nervous System Reset: Day 12

Okie doke! Day 12!

Our last lesson is with Anaïs Skoutariotis who leads us in a practice using our eyes. She explains that when we’re on alert and our nervous system is triggered, we use our eyes to protect ourselves. They focus or fixate on something. Our pupils react, eyes narrow sometimes. And, of course, they observe everything, looking for potential harm. But what we may not realize is that our eyes can also be used to calm the nervous system. Anaïs says that by “softening the gaze” and becoming aware of the edges of our surroundings we can actually tell our brains that it’s safe, therefore allowing ourselves to relax and reset. She tells us that, during the practice, we don’t have to focus our eyes on anything in particular, just be aware.

We begin by looking straight ahead, then letting our awareness drift to the edges of our field of vision. Then, without moving our heads, slowly look to the right. Breathe in. Breathe out. Then slowly look to the left. Breathe in. Breathe out. Back and forth we go. Pausing to breathe at each extreme. At this point she encourages us to allow our eye movements be smooth. Comfortable, without strain. She just tells us to let our brains take in the information, shapes, colors, etc.

Unfortunately, for me, I’m a very, very visual person and I immediately notice that my eyes are straining to go as far left or right as they can. Then I realize that it’s causing discomfort – and not just because I’ve pushed my eyes too far in any direction. There are simply too many ‘things’ in the room and that now irritates me. (For the record, my husband and I are in the middle of Swedish Death Cleaning and so things are definitely in disarray at the moment. Ugh.)

We finally come back to center and close our eyes. Breathe in. Breathe out. Think about what this exercise has done for us. Maybe there’s a shift. Calm. She finishes by asking us to take a moment to think back on the past 12 days and how these new skills have helped us. I’ll be following up this post with an overview of the challenge, so stay tuned.

But first, how did this lesson go for you? What did you think? Was it helpful? What did you notice? I hope you enjoy the rest of your day!

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