Day 7: Choose Your Company
We did it! A full week with Alex Elle doing some meaningful work about figuring out what’s working, what’s not, how to see things more clearly, what we need, what we’re holding back, what we’re letting go of so that we can receive, and how it feels to be safe.
Today she talks about the company we keep and poses a question she’d like us to ask ourselves: “What kind of connection am I actually available for now?” She reminds us that it doesn’t mean what we wish for or what we’ve settled for in the past. It means right now. She says to choose three values. For me? Honesty, mindfulness, and reciprocity are the three that come immediately to mind. I must honor these qualities as well, not just the other person. Connection is a two-way street, right? And she says that these words aren’t what we hope for, they’re “decisions”. Then she tells us to repeat a few phrases: “I am not wishing for something to be true. I am deciding what will be.”
She reminds us that we’re human and that we may find ourselves reverting back to our old habits but encourages us to remember that we can change that. We can always come back to our decisions. We can choose to realign rather than overextend or act to please others. We can choose ourselves, our truth, and better connections. We now know how this feels and we can never forget or un-learn it. It takes work. It means that we need to be consistent. But it is possible. She leaves us with yet another truth:
“You don’t have to earn connection by abandoning yourself.”
I hope that you’ve learned some things about yourself during this past week. I know I have. I think I was hoping for, and expecting, something a little different when I began this challenge but ultimately I feel that it prompted me to examine a few relationships a little more closely and taught me that I don’t have to shrink or abandon myself to try to make others happy. I will do my best to keep that close to my heart whenever I find myself feeling ‘heavy’ or overextended. I will remind myself that there is give and take in every connection. Every relationship. I will remember what I need and what I’m available for and strive to stay the course so that I can enjoy every connection I make. I wish you all the best in your journey to find true connections.
Namaste.
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